I received a letter from my mom on Friday afternoon that I have been trying to process all weekend. I've pretty much gone through all the major reactions: rage, confusion, denial, apathy, understanding, and forgiveness. Why is it that mom's have just that certain way of getting under our skin? Then of course, if you call them out, YOU are the bad guy. Maybe its just me and my mom that have this special relationship. Anyway...after a 3-day holiday weekend to settle down, and in the spirit of turning lemons into lemonade, I'm taking a higher road.
I will not be giving my mom the silent treatment. I will not be pointing out to my mom all the flaws and hypocrisies contained in her letter. I will not be telling her that shortly after reading her letter and associated "food plan" the papers went into the shredder.
Instead, what I will be doing is taking comfort in the fact that I have been taking a close look at myself for the past 6 months. I have been making more of an effort than I ever have in my entire life to get my shit together. And I'm not just focused on weight loss, although that is a nice perk. Another thing I'm taking comfort in is that I have discovered something that works for ME.
I have been inspired by a few blog posts recently this one and this one and this one specifically. I think the message here is crystal clear and couldn't be more pertinent to my state of mind. The key to success is finding what works for you. Finding what works for me.
So, in addition to all the planning of meals, writing down everything bitten into, drinking lots of water, sleeping well, exercising, and everyday life, I must ignore the haters. Especially the haters that don't have their shit together. Especially the haters that claim to be supportive when they haven't listened to a word you have said. Especially the haters that are handing you another "food plan" for when this one doesn't work out.
Oh, and haters...I lost another pound. (Heh, I said I was taking a higher road...not THE high road.) :)
for me the IGNORING clicked when I decided (right or wrong :)) that IT WAS NOT ABOUT ME.
ReplyDeletewhenever any of that flowed my way I CHOOSE to view it as ALL ABOUT THEM.
Im sure sometimes it was/is actually about me---but I still chose not to see it that way and MOVED ON.
MizFit
Parents are a special kinda crazy. The Italian ones especially. I like MizFit's approach.
ReplyDeleteWOW! Thanks for the link! And for what it's worth? You're doing AWESOME. The pictures that you've posted are amazing...it looks like you're your own younger sister! :)
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Incidentally, I wrote a post about the topic of your post today. I hadn't read yours until just now, but I completely agree with the knowledge that what you're doing is right for you.
Screw everyone else.
Oh, and congrats on the pound lost. You're awesome.